Book your free discovery call
A Discovery Call is 30-minute Zoom call for you to talk about what you’d like to get out of therapy.
We can then explore together what I can do to help.
It’s an opportunity to ask me any questions about how I work and make sure I’m the right person for you.
If I’m not, there are other coaches, counsellors and therapists I can recommend.
You won’t get a hard sell and you don’t need to sign up to anything if you don’t want to. You might decide now isn’t the right time for therapy or that you’d rather work with someone else. Not everyone’s a match and I won’t be offended if you want to look elsewhere.
2. Your investment
Prices vary depending on what you can afford and whether I’m seeing you in person in London, or online.
Individuals: £70 to £90 per 50-minute session
Couples: £90 to £120 per 50-minute session (double sessions are also an option)
Block bookings (four sessions or more): 10% discount
Groups and workshops: get in touch using the contact form.
3. Some necessary admin
If you decide to start therapy, either as an individual or with a partner, we’ll begin by laying the foundations for our work together.
This involves you filling out three important documents:
Your details - This covers the basics (your full name, address etc) plus other information such as medication you might be taking, accessibility needs, preferred time to meet and whether you want online or in-person sessions.
Client contract - This provides the terms and conditions of our working arrangement. You just need to read, sign and date.
Privacy statement - This gives you more details about the data I collect from you and what I do with it. Again, you just need to read, sign and date.
If you’re coming as a couple, you’ll both need to complete your own forms.
4. Your first session
Building on what you shared in our Discovery Call, the first session (or even the first few sessions) are about getting really clear on what you want out of therapy. This is the “contracting” part.
During our time together, we’ll keep this primary goal or goals in mind. I’ll also check in from time to time to make sure you’re happy with the way we’re working.
Of course, other issues may come up or you may decide you want to focus on something else. The important thing is that we will keep sight of what you need from our time together.
5. Individual sessions for couples
After our first session together, you’ll both have a session with me separately (charged at the individual session rates).
Although you’re together in a relationship, you’re still two very different human beings, with your own life experiences and needs. Seeing you on your own allows me to get to know you better. It also helps me understand your unique perspectives and what you’re bringing to the relationship.
There are two sides to every story and this one-off, one-to-one session gives you both an equal voice and a chance to be seen and heard.
Our one-to-one time can also help you find the words to express what you’re feeling or needing more clearly.
I won’t keep secrets on your behalf
If you tell me something about yourself during our one-to-one session, or via email or the phone, I won’t share it with your partner. However, I may feel it’s important that you tell them about it either before or during the next session. If this happens, I’ll explain why and we can talk about it.
If that information isn’t shared, we may not be able to continue with the therapy.
Any emails I send you will always copy in your partner.
6. How many sessions will I need?
My aim is not to have you as a client forever, but to work with you for as long as you find it useful and necessary. That tends to be upwards of 6 sessions.
Change can happen quickly or unfold slowly and gradually. It depends what we’re working with.
My wish is to offer you a space that is supportive, compassionate and non-judgemental. But you may still need time to build the kind of trust that allows you to share fully. In short, we need to get to know each other.
Equally, the relational world is impacted by so many factors, including childhood experiences, culture, gender, sexuality, beliefs, expectations… Sometimes, that takes time to untangle.
Remember, you’re in control and you can stop therapy whenever you like. However, I recommend giving me some notice so we can work towards a good ending, or at least have one final session to wrap up and honour our time together. How (and why) we say good-bye can also be part of the therapy.
7. How can I make the most of our time together?
Talking about your intimate life can be daunting. When sex and relationships go wrong, it can prompt a range of different emotions, including shame, embarrassment, anger, frustration, pain, loss and grief.
I invite you to be brave. By reaching out you’re making the decision not to go it alone. And I have the knowledge and experience to hold you safely, with empathy and compassion.
Sometimes the times you most feel like quitting are when you’re closest to a breakthrough. Courage is never wasted. And I’m there to support you.
I invite you to be as honest as you can be. Sometimes that’s not easy. It can be painful to speak the truth, or feel hugely risky. Only say what you’re comfortable saying, but whatever you do share, know that it will be heard and valued.
The more you put in, the more you’ll get out. This is time dedicated to you. Make yourself a priority. You deserve to feel confident and safe. You deserve to be happy, loved and fulfilled. You deserve to feel passion and pleasure - if that is what you want.