Are sessions online or in person?

All sessions are on Zoom – but if you’re based in London or near Guildford in Surrey, there may also be the option to meet in person. If you’d prefer that, get in touch and we can talk about when and how.

Is any touch involved?

There’s no physical/sexual contact of any kind. We’ll talk. If you’re looking for massage or any other body-based experiences involving physical contact, I’m not the practitioner for you.

Do you only work with couples/people in relationships?

Not at all. You’re welcome to come on your own. In fact, this can be really helpful. I believe that what we bring into a relationship as individuals is just as important as the relationship itself. Talking about issues that concern you, for example gender identity, sexuality, trauma or abuse, are often best discussed outside of your relationships so when it comes to sharing yourself with others, you know what matters to you and what you need from them.

Perhaps you’ve noticed a particular pattern that repeats itself in your relationships, or that being intimate or vulnerable with others is difficult. Exploring what’s going on for you can set you up for future success and happiness.

Are LGBTQIA+ friendly?

Yes. Sexuality has many expressions, as do relationships. I’m interested in helping you explore what good sex and relationships mean to you and how to engage with them safely, consensually, passionately, creatively, and with care for yourself and others.

Are you kink/BDSM friendly?

Yes. See above.

What can I talk about?

You can discuss any aspects of your emotional, physical, sexual or spiritual self. What you choose to focus on and how deeply is entirely up to you. I offer you a private space within which to explore. Everything you say will always be treated confidentially (unless the law says otherwise).

How much do you charge?

For individuals, I charge £70 to £100 per 50-minute session. For couples, it’s £90 to £120 per 50-minute session, with the option to book double sessions if you want more time. For in-person sessions, prices are likely to be more to include room hire.

How many sessions will I need?

The number of sessions you need depends on what you want to work on. The change you’re looking for might happen quickly, but generally it takes longer to reach a place where you feel able to ‘go it alone’. If you go to a personal trainer, you don’t expect a six-pack after your first session. This is similar. Some things just take time.

However, it definitely helps if you’re committed to the process. It can feel scary to be vulnerable, but I invite you to be brave and honest about what’s going on for you. The more you put in, the more you’re likely to get out.

Once couples have completed their therapy, they often want to have the occasional top-up session to help them stay on track.

Will you tell me what to do?

No, I’ll never be an expert on your life - that’s your job! My role is to help you find your own unique path, either individually or with a partner/partners. I do that mainly by asking questions that encourage you to think more deeply or in a different way about things.

At the start of our sessions we’ll take time to get really clear on what you want to work on and I’ll check in with you from time to time to make sure you’re getting what you need.

What about privacy and confidentiality?

I have regular supervision to ensure that I’m offering my clients the best possible support. Therefore, I may share details of our conversations with my supervisor to get their guidance and support. This is someone who is also registered with COSRT and shares the same ethical and professional values as me. They won’t disclose your details to anyone else.

Otherwise, anything you say remains completely confidential unless I’m required to share it for legal reasons, or I believe you’re a genuine risk to yourself or others.

It’s unlikely that our confidentiality agreement will need to be broken, but if that happens, as appropriate, we’ll talk about why and what that will involve.

Regarding privacy, when you sign up for therapy, I’ll send you a client contract and privacy statement to read and sign if you’re happy with them both.

What happens if I can’t make a session or I’m running late?

If you give me at least 24 hours’ notice, we’ll just reschedule your session and no payment will be lost. If I have less than 24 hours’ notice, we can put another date in the diary, but you’ll forfeit the payment for that missed session.

If you’re running late and let me know, I’ll wait for you to show up, although the session will still end at the usual time. If you don’t let me know you’re running late, I’ll wait 15 minutes and then cancel the session and payment for that session will be lost.

If I need to miss a session, I will let you know with as much notice as possible. In this situation, you won’t lose any money for the session missed.

If either you or I have holidays booked, it’s helpful to share this when we first speak. You don’t need to pay for sessions that you miss if you’re on holiday.

Are sessions recorded?

No sessions will be recorded without the agreement of everyone involved.