About me
Hello. I’m Olivia Mackinder, a certified Psychosexual & Relationship therapist based in London and on Zoom.
Individuals and couples of all sexual orientations, and gender identities are welcome in my practice.
Professionally speaking…
I’m a fully insured registered member of COSRT, and have regular supervision so I’m able to offer my clients the best of me.
As an integrative therapist, I draw on different styles of therapy, including psychodynamic, gestalt, somatic therapy and mindfulness. That means you get Sex & Relationship therapy tailored to you.
I’ve worked for The Awareness Centre and 56 Dean Street.
I have a background in somatic coaching and I’m a NLP Master Practitioner too.
“I found the world to be woefully lacking in safe places. So I became one.”
Find your voice
Before becoming a Sex & Relationship therapist, I was a copywriter for 20+ years. Creating connections has always been a passion.
To improve the communication in your relationships, it really helps to understand yourself and what’s going on for you.
What do you need to feel good, whole, or fulfilled?
Answering that question is often where we begin.
I can help you:
Tune into your emotional and physical needs.
Learn how to express those needs with clarity, confidence and compassion.
Relate to yourself and others in ways that feel honest, boundaried and free.
Listen to your body
Parents, teachers, popular culture, friends, religion, the media, porn: they all give us messages about what sex and intimacy are supposed to be like. If we take those messages on board, they hold us to unreasonable standards of performance, ability or appearance. They create a ‘normal’ that no one can live up to - and that’s the cause of so much guilt and shame.
So, away from the background noise, we’ll explore what you really want: the sex and relationships you’d ask for if you were confident, clear, and unafraid.
What does your body need or even long for? Where is your pleasure, passion, joy, or even ecstacy to be found?
Or, if there’s stress, anxiety or trauma, how do you make your body a safe place to be?
You may not know – so we can start there. If you do, let’s find out what’s getting in your way.
“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves”
